Monday , September 28 2020

Letter of Condolence

We will transform your sympathy into a comforting letter of condolence

Grief can be so difficult; it is no coincidence that it comes from the same etymological root from which we take “grave.” Feeling that heaviness can be so painful, and we seek to reach out to those who remain in the world with us and carry that weight. Yet just as the most devastated buildings are those at the epicenter of an earthquake and the foundations feel perilous, it can be hard to know where to step and where to begin recovery and recovering. As social creatures, we start by joining with others to not bear the burden alone, and this getting through because it can be hard to get over, takes a variety of forms.

Maybe you were able to attend the funeral, or perhaps you had to miss it. Maybe you didn’t say all that you wanted to. Maybe you have pieces of what you wanted to express but are not quite sure how to combine them into something that feels complete or able to achieve the feeling you hope to express. 

Let’s work together to bring those pieces together into something beautiful, meaningful, and healing. We are here to help you say what will make all of you feel better and at greater peace: the bereaved for the receiving and you for one of the kindest of gestures.

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Sample Letter of Condolence


Finding the right words or what feels like the proper way to offer expressions of deepest sympathy to a family member, friend or colleague after the loss of a loved one can be challenging. There are many considerations to take into account when expressing condolences to another individual. Below, you can find a letter of condolence example which was written for one of our clients.

Dear Vanessa,

I wanted to reach out to you to extend my deepest condolences about Kobe and Gigi; the loss of such beloved ones in this life is devastating to me and to all who knew him, so I seek to give you comfort in this painful time. There is no getting over, but there is getting through, and I hope my words can console you in some small way as you negotiate life after the passing of this outstanding man and promising young lady.

Your beloved Kobe was of course not only nationally popular, but a global phenomenon, and so the pain of his loss is felt acutely even here in Slovenia. (Yes, we do love that he trash-talked our Luka Dončić in our own language!) I remember being curious and reading of Kobe’s unique name to learn that it came from the name of a Japanese city that held a door to the gods. This was indeed so true of Kobe if the divine is the greatest that we can aspire to despite being necessarily human. Kobe was that opening to something truly great in being a revolutionary in the sport, a champion of young women in sport, and a supportive peer to so many. From all you have said as you recalled him in the Staples Center and those glimpses of the man behind the professional that are coming even more to light in retrospectives, he was also an opening in the heavens that was the love of your life and a great provider for the four best people you knew, the reflections of your love writ large in youth and exuberance.

It is so devastating to lose a child; it feels so unnatural because our children are our immortality, our hopes and dreams, our family and genes surging forward into a future we pray and must trust they will know for at least a generation longer than we will. To experience any less than that for any of them is so painful, and it is there that we must strive for consolation in the survivors. No one can replace Gigi. No one. I hope with great love that your heart may heal in the time to come, even as birthdays, holidays, and simply otherwise ordinary days full of their moments remind you of the absence of two you loved most in this world and remind you of the pain anew and in surprising ways. That is all to be expected, no matter how unexpected this loss was. I know from your speech that you believe in a heaven that allows us to be once again with the ones we cherish most in this life, and I am so glad you have this faith to comfort you. You and your family have been and are in my thoughts. Grief is a heavy thing, and I hope that as the world weeps with you, you do not feel you must shoulder it alone. I am so sorry. I am wishing you peace and healing, a time when the memories make you smile more than they remind you of what has been lost.

With deep respect and fellowship in grief,
Anjay Crossroad

Note: For a good letter of condolence, We like to ensure that it is clear the bereaved are not grieving alone, reiterate the impact of the person they lost to both themselves and others, and show understanding of the uneven nature of grief for such losses. If it is a case in which the sender can do something, We find it helps to be really specific about what one can offer. Don’t ever write “if you need anything” and then leave it vague, because oftentimes the grieving does not feel comfortable asking for something specific when for many that line is just a pleasantry.

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PackageBasic I’M SORRYStandard I’M SO SORRYPremium MORE THAN (FEWER) WORDS CAN SAY
Words of condolence and comfort that are conciseWords of condolence and comfort that are more involved and detailedWords of condolence and comfort that connect with the reader at greater length
Words Included200300400
Revisions122
Delivery Time2 days2 days2 days
Total
$99

$149
$199