Wednesday , April 14 2021

Condolence Messages

Condolences are the easiest to define as the words of solace and comfort, which we say to people who suffer the loss of somebody, who was close to them. All too often, it's like we find ourselves in distress at this point: we can't choose the right words and be helpful or supportive. Death is not something we face daily, which is why such initial embarrassment is common.

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It is exactly why we want to help you with some well-intentioned tips, that should help to ease such situation.

How to Write a Condolence Messages & How do you express condolences?

The first and most important gesture is primarily that your words of compassion come from the heart, and that they make bereaved know, which they are not alone. It is also important that they know, that you are offering them support in the form of actions.  Your help and a warm embrace, in which bereaved can shed their tears of sorrow, are worth more than any artificial words of solace.

Of course, the rules of such behavior apply in cases where the ones suffering their loss are your close friends or family members. The suffering can be acquaintances, neighbors, colleagues, business partners, and others that you have no close contact with, but you know each other.

Condolences can be said:

Orally (if you meet in person; You can also express them over a phone call)


In writing (if you do not have regular contacts, do not meet in person; in such cases, you can help yourself with letters of sympathy and condolences, cards, e-mails, telegrams...)

Writing condolence messages is not always an easy task mostly because of the deep emotion that is involved in the writing,

When you express your condolences orally, it is important to offer bereaved your hand and express your condolences. The most common act of offering condolences seems to be a warm handshake with the bereaved and simple expression "My sincere condolences.". If you and the bereaved are very close, follow the advice above and don't let the thought of death or the bereaved in mourning frighten you – the person you know so well is still the same person, they are just in the process of mourning. Let them know that they can count on your support. Say simple and sincere words of how you feel.

When you express your condolences in writing as condolence messages, you can use different verses (click-find them at the bottom of the page), but it is our advice to use only those, with which you can identify and reflect well how you feel. You should avoid verses with religious content, especially if you are not completely sure the deceased was religious or a member and a sympathizer of various societies or movements.

In regards to the content of the letter of condolence, it is also important to know, how well you knew the deceased person, or how well do you know their relatives. If bereaved is your business partner, co-worker or someone like that, we advise you to use a suitable verse and write in a text a few sentences expressing sympathy on the loss, respect for the deceased, and offer your help. When composing a letter of condolence or sympathy card, it is essential that they are hand-written and that they contain your hand signed signature. E-mail and telegrams are more appropriate when you are away, or you are not in regular, personal contacts with bereaved.

How, to whom and when to express your sympathy at the funeral ceremony? If you know the family of the deceased well, then you should not have any problems knowing who to express your sympathies. It is appropriate that we convey the condolences to all family members. It often happens that people attending the funeral do not know whether to express condolences to former partners, spouses, unlawful children, ... of the deceased. If they attend the funeral, they should also be treated with compassion, and given your words of condolence. If you knew the deceased, and you do not know the relatives of the deceased, you can easily avoid the uneasy situation by conveying condolences to those who stand next to the grave or walk behind the coffin or the urn. Usually, these are the closest family members or people, who were the closest to the deceased. In case the funeral ceremony has not begun yet, you can offer your sincere condolences when you arrive at the funeral. Otherwise, you should wait until the end of the funeral.

Examples of what to write in a condolence message