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Hard times strike someone near to you, be it a friend, a relative, a neighbor or a public figure. There is little you can do to aid their loved ones in these times. You can send flowers or condolence messages and yet you think; “There has to be more!”. You are right, in the case that just buying a card will not do the trick and it would be far better to put some of your own effort in writing a decent message, which comes from within. These messages will be much more soothing and helpful as any amount of roses bought off a shelf. The personal condolence message will ensure the loved ones, that they can rely on you in this time of need and that the deceased was truly someone you cared about.
All through the internet and email is far more popular these days, most still believe that the best way for sending condolence messages is by normal mail and handwritten. As stated above, handwritten letters express feelings and usually stay with the loved ones for remembrance. Just make sure that your handwriting is up to par, not like a 6-year-old wrote it. Also make sure you use either white paper or some sort of pastel papers, preferably with flowers, instead of some flashy orange/green notepad paper. Do not use pencils or red ink, but opt for blue or black ink instead. The writing should be more conservative, not comical or “cheerful” in the attempt to cheer up the reader in these sad times.
You should begin by addressing the condolence message properly. If you do not know who to send it to, you can send it to the closest relative. If you do know someone personally you should address it to them, but still, keep the entire family incorporated.
The letter shouldn’t and mustn’t belong. You cannot predict how many cards the families will receive, so make it short and to the point. It can be only 1 sentence long if you believe you have captured your thoughts in that one sentence. By writing long condolence messages you run the risk of writing something inappropriate, even though you didn’t mean for it to come out as it did when you were writing it.
Depending on how well you knew the person you could either write an anecdote or briefly describe a memory of an event that took place, preferably a joyful experience.
It is very important that you always refer to the deceased by his name, even though you might have called him by his last name, or by his nickname.
Stay away from clichés like “Time heal all wounds” etc, cause they will probably make the situation even worse. If you haven’t been in their shoes, you wouldn’t know the pain and sorrow that they are going through. On the other hand, if you have been in their shoes, you can opt-in to help them any way you can.
Enclosing the condolence message with a quote from a poem, which expresses your thoughts, or just writing “my prayers are with you” will do fine.
Condolence Messages Examples
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